Positive Intelligence

Mental fitness is the answer to life's challenges! Extensive scientific research has been done to prove it. This research is foundational in all of the Better Together Programs as well as one-on-one coaching offered by Belief & Balance Coaching. Click the link below to nerd out on the science of it!

Science

Better Together Programs

The Better Together Programs dare you to be vulnerable with a small group of humans so that you can collectively gain the wisdom of mental fitness and build community with like-minded humans also on a transformational path.

The scientific research first published in the book Positive Intelligence lead to the PQ Operating System, a powerful system that gives you the skills to:

Understand people at their deepest level and lean into empathy
Transform stress into opportunities
Dramatically improve your personal relationships
Unlock your potential
Deepen professional relationships
Overcome obstacles
Achieve your goals with confidence and precision

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Positive Intelligence Framework

There are only 10 things that cause ALL NEGATIVE emotions, what we call SABOTEURS.
You will build MENTAL FITNESS to rewire how your brain responds when you recognize the Saboteurs.

There are only 5 things that cause ALL POSITIVE emotions, what we call SAGE POWERS.
You will strengthen these powers when building your MENTAL FITNESS.

Saboteurs

Saboteurs are the voices in your head that generate negative emotions as you handle life's everyday challenges. They represent the automatic patterns in your mind for how to think, feel, and respond. Your Saboteurs cause all of your stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, restlessness, and unhappiness. They sabotage your performance, wellbeing, and relationships.

Take the Saboteur Assessment to find out which Saboteurs you are most naturally drawn toward so that you can start fighting back!

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The Judge the Master Saboteur Green_edit

The judge is the Universal Saboteur that EVERYONE has. It beats you up repeatedly over mistakes or shortcomings, warns you obsessively about future risks, gets you fixated on what is wrong with yourself and others, etc. Your Judge activates your other Saboteurs, causes much of your stress and unhappiness, harms your relationships, and reduces your effectiveness.

Focusing on the positive and pleasant in an extreme way. Avoiding difficult and unpleasant tasks and conflicts.

Anxiety-based need to take charge and control situations and people's actions to one's own will. High anxiety and impatience when that is not possible.

Dependent on constant performance and achievement for self-respect and self-validation. Latest achievement quickly discounted, needing more.

Intense and exclusive focus on the rational processing of everything, including relationships. Can be perceived as uncaring, unfeeling, or intellectually arrogant.

Continuous intense anxiety about all the dangers and what could go wrong. Vigilance that can never rest.

Indirectly tries to gain acceptance and affection by helping, pleasing, rescuing, or flattering others. Loses sight of own needs and becomes resentful as a result.

Restless, constantly in search of greater excitement in the next activity or constant busyness. Rarely at peace or content with the current activity.

Perfectionism and a need for order and organization taken too far. Anxious trying to make too many things perfect.

Emotional and temperamental as a way to gain attention and affection. An extreme focus on internal feelings, particularly painful ones. Martyr streak.

Sage Perspective

"Every outcome or circumstance can be turned into a gift or opportunity."

Peak MENTAL FITNESS will allow you to operate from the Sage Perspective as soon as you are faced with a challenge.

Sage Powers

Sage Powers come from the part of the brain that is associated with: positive emotions, peace and calm, clear-headed focus, creativity, and the big picture.

Activate is associated with feeling fierce and fearless. It allows you to move into action from a place of calm, clear-headedness, and laser focus.

Empathize is about putting yourself in the shoes of the person that you are in relationship with. You lean into understanding each human's unique lived experience and how that may impact how they show up with you.

Explore is about wanting to discover without any fear or agenda regarding what will be concluded. The discovery is its own reward. It allows you to develop deep curiosity.

Innovate is about a desire to improve on the obvious initial ideas. It requires letting go of initial ideas and generating more.

Navigate is about fast forwarding to the end of your life and looking at your current situation through a different lense. It enables you to sort out what truly matters. It guides you to connect with your deeper sense of meaning, values, and purpose.